1) Be proactive and do not ignore it or think it will go away.
2) Set up consultations with at least 2-3 attorneys from different firms to find an individual that you can work well with.
3) If you are going to represent yourself, become familiar with the law and seek out assistance/self-help that may be provided by the courts and/or local bar associations.
4) You have a limited time period in which to respond to the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage so make sure you file it within that time.
5) Failure to respond to the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage may be a basis for the court to hold you in default.
6) Seek assistance from a mental health professional if you need help dealing with the divorce process and need coping skills.
7) Be prepared to provide documentation of your income, assets, and liabilities.
8) Be prepared to take a parenting class if you have children.
9) Conflict is expensive so reach agreements up front with assistance of counsel.
10) Be assured that you will be ok and will get through the process by making sound decisions while keeping emotions in check.